Marie Claire: it seems that leaving, m & ecirc ; momentan & eacute me ment, children with their p & egrave ; re is still difficult for a woman.
Catherine Vanier : This is probably one of the last bastions & agrave ; dropping for women: the belief that they are bad m & egrave ; res if they are not that m & egrave ; res.
That is & agrave ; -dire if their dé Sir is not exclusively East & eacute; to their children.
One might think that the lib & eacute; ration sex, the advanced & eacute; e the rights of women and g & eacute; n & eacute; realization of discourse f & eacute; departments have ease & eacute; things to the point where the & quot; Normal & quot;..
but in practice, this is not the case.
Culturally, individually, still holds tr & egrave ; s strong & agrave ; this id & eacute; e that the child is the sole object of lam & egrave ; re.
And this object is not shareable with a professional vocation or a passionate love.
The guilt & eacute; Personal women is only int & eacute; riorisation ambient speech, int & eacute; integration of our R & eacute; f & eacute; social and cultural references.
For children or adolescents live well s & eacute; preparation, it is necessary that the m & egrave ; re it – m & ecirc ; my live well.
This requires her to do with her body dé decision, she feels the l & eacute; gitimate essential for it.
This does not exclude the questions, doubts, feelings of missing or m & ecirc ; me guilt & eacute;.
The important thing is that it reaches & agrave ; & eacute; quilibrer in its dé decision, her dé Sir and well & ecirc ; be his children.
If dé decision is taken and assum & eacute; e apr & egrave ; s what face- & agrave ; -face with you, you have to talk to her husband, and in a second & egrave ; me time with his children.
It is important to give & agrave ; information about each of reasons, hard & eacute; e and modalities & eacute; s that s & eacute; preparation.
Otherwise, a m & egrave ; re making a choice of personal life, professional or love that forces & agrave ; if s & eacute; adorn her children and put an organization in place, does not abandon.
For children, a better m & egrave ; re & eacute; loign & eacute; e and linked but happy that a m & egrave ; re pr & eacute; but feel frustrated & eacute; e and sacrificed & eacute; e.
What r & OCIRC, the plays the p & egrave ; re in this Particular & egrave configuration; re ?
It can either exploit children and contrast & agrave ; their m & egrave ; re either support his dé decision and reassure the fa & ccedil ; on which they are loved & eacute; s and of which we take care of them.
M & ecirc ; me when he does not support the dé accuracy of m & egrave ; re, it should give priority int & eacute; r & ecirc ; t her children by not judge or condemn and take emotionally hostage.
There are p & egrave ; res that & agrave ; During a s & eacute; preparation, dé cover their paternity & eacute; and cons dé consequences in everyday life: some fully invest the R & OCIRC ; it and build relationships more accomplices and more intimate with their children; others, frightened & eacute; s by the load, go much solicit others, family, in-laws or friends.